As many of you will know, this year was supposed to be the year my husband got his School Transfer to teach somewhere else and hopefully along the coast. But it didn’t work out the way we planned and he didn’t get a transfer. We were both very upset as we had planned this from the first year I came to live in Turkey.
In fact since I moved to Turkey, we have been going from one thing to the next waiting on something happening and building up to this year and our transfer and coastal living. Living by a coast has always been a dream for me, regardless of whether it’s in Turkey or elsewhere. I’ve viewed so many coastal houses in Turkey hoping that they’ll be ours one day, and taking inspiration from some beautiful coastal homes I’ve seen on Reali to perhaps modernize and transform my Turkey beach house. I’ve done so much waiting and planning that I haven’t really been living.
It wasn’t until the lovely Mary who writes the Interesting Ordinary Blog, messaged me not long after we found out we didn’t get a transfer, that I realised that we have been constantly waiting, but waiting for what? Nothing really.
Mary’s Message started off with this extract from “Oh the places you’ll go” by Dr Seuss
The waiting place …for people just waiting. Waiting for a train to go or a bus to come, or a plane to go, the mail to come, or the rain to go or the phone to ring, or the snow to snow or waiting around for a Yes or a No or waiting for their hair to grow. Everyone is just waiting. Waiting for the fish to bite or waiting for wind to fly a kite or waiting around for Friday night or waiting, perhaps, for their Uncle Jake or a pot to boil, or a Better Break or a sting of pearls, or a pair of pants or a wig with curls, or Another Chance. Everyone is just waiting. NO!That’s not for you! Somehow you’ll escape all that waiting and staying. You’ll find the bright places where Boom Bands are playing.
What Mary then said is “living in Turkey can often feel like a waiting place” and she was right. I hear it now often in what people say, they are waiting for things to get better, waiting to move, waiting to get a Kimlik waiting and waiting on things to change.
But the thing is if you keep waiting you stop living and life passes you by in a blink of an eye. Its not just in Turkey, but often as expats we find ourselves waiting for life to improve, things to change,for it to get better.
Instead we should be in the present and living our lives and stop waiting on things to happen and just start doing. Mary was very right in what she said so right it took me nearly a month to reply while I sat and pondered her words, desperate to deny that we had been sitting waiting on life to come to us, sitting waiting on a transfer.
Instead if we had just been living our lives, enjoying each moment, that if the transfer had came it would have been a bonus, if it hadn’t we still would have been disappointed but not have felt like we had waste our time and energy on waiting for our transfer, after all we had wasted most of the summer holidays waiting around for the results, instead of enjoying the good weather and free time.
I wanted to write this article, to pass on Mary’s good advice, don’t sit around waiting, but live your life, if you are living here in Turkey, you are living a life many would love to be in, I know its not always perfect and we don’t all live in the perfect place, but make the most of what you have, be happy with what you do have and the extras that come along are a bonus and the ones that don’t then hey, you will get them next time.
Next year we will apply again and hope our dreams of moving to the coast will come true, but this time we won’t be wasting our time waiting but living and being and if we get it well, you will here me celebrating from here, if not then there’s always the next year.
Thank you Mary for your great advice x
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