I wrote a post a while back about being independent. It’s something easily lost when you move to another country like Turkey, where language is a barrier, people stare at you and see you as a novelty. Even in the most crowded expat areas, you can still be seen as some alien specimen. (Article: Find Your Independence in Turkey)
It’s so easy to allow your feelings of being out of place in Turkey or feeling like no one understands you when you speak to feel you can’t do things or things are harder to do some much so, that you allow your partner to take over the small tasks and it can leave you feeling less independent and your self esteem takes a knock and it can be hard to get back to being you.
You either have to say ok, I don’t need to do those tasks and my partner can take care of them and that leaves me more time do other things or you decide that you need those tasks to help you feel better about life here, then you need to take control and start doing them!
Yabanci, in Turkish means, foreigner, stranger, strange, alien.
And its time we took ownership of being the Yabanci, all of us, be proud to be different, be proud of where you have came from and who you are. If you feel good about yourself and good about being the Yabanci, then it will shine through as confidence and people will feel good around you.
If you allow the feeling of being a Yabanci pull you down, you will shrink inside of yourself and become someone people walk by because they can’t see you.
In Game of Thrones, the imp tells Jon Snow to own being called a Bastard, because that way it can’t harm him and he knows who he is.
We are Yabancis, we are different, people are going to stare and ask questions and panic when you walk into their shop or home, but if you smile, stand tall and look them in the eye and take control they will forget you are a Yabanci and remember you for you.
Just for a moment, imagine that you can take charge, do the little things you used to, even if your Turkish isn’t great, imagine getting your message over to whoever it is and feeling great afterwards for achieving that goal.
I hope it felt good, every time you come across something you feel you can’t do in Turkey because you are a Yabanci, I want you to imagine that you can do it, focus on it over and over again then go and do it.
It’s good to be different, because everyone is different, be yourself, take control and get your independence back in Turkey, don’t let your fears of language barriers and being stared at stop you living your life here.
So shout it out loud “ I am Proud to be a Yabanci” and go out there and get them!
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