Ever wondered what it’s like being a Mum in Turkey, here is my experience so far…..
Over a year ago I gave birth to our son here in Turkey. At the time I wrote about being pregnant in Turkey and I thought it was about time to write what its been like being a first time Mum living in Turkey for me.
During the time of the birth everything went pretty well but at the time I would have told you different. It wasn’t easy going through my first birth without close family around me. I was grateful that my husband was there and that my doctor and the staff supported me through the whole birthing. I would certainly recommend going private and taking your time to choose your hospital, it made all the difference having people you could trust.
Afterwards it was home with baby and learning the ropes of being a first time Mum. I am glad to say that I find motherhood fairly easy and we haven’t had many major issues to deal with. I am also very grateful that this is the case for me. If there had been larger problems or I wasn’t settling into being a Mum I think life would be very difficult.
For me and a few others I know we live very isolated lives. Yes we have made friends with people in the community but our families are many miles away from us and so we lack the support network that many first time Mums have.
It wasn’t until our trip back to Scotland this summer that I realised how tired I was and how much pressure I had been under. I really had been like a single Mum with no one to support me.
My Husband is great and does what he can, but as always with children it comes down to the Mum to do the lions share of the work and care. When you don’t have family and friends around to give you a break from Baby from time to time that job becomes a 24 hours 365 days a year job.
I can hear some Mums now saying well that’s motherhood, but just think about it for a moment…… Most Mothers have a family member or friend they can leave baby with for a few hours, or come round and help with the housework or watch baby while you catch up on some sleep or have some “you time”.
I just don’t have that and I know few others that don’t. It puts a lot of pressure on you and if you can’t cope it then puts preasure on your relationship. I can vouch for that. It gets to the point your counting the hours till baby takes his next nap. And then you can get on with chores or take a rest.
But that is the hard part of being a Mum in Turkey for me. The great part is I get to spend everyday with my child and not have to go out to work. If I was living in the UK I would have to work and give up time with my son.
Turkey as a whole is a lot more family and child oriented, yes you get nosy people giving unwanted advice and they all think you are crazy if you don’t put at least 5 layers of clothes on your child in the middle of Summer.
But the fact is they care rather than turn a blind eye and ignore you. You can eat out without people in the restaurants cringing when you walk in and there are always things to go do as a family that don’t cost the earth.
Health Check Ups and Vaccinations
If you are wondering what the health care is like after the birth I can’t fault it. He had all the tests required after the birth and monthly check ups for the first 6 months with vaccinations and then check ups at every vaccination date. We haven’t had to pay for anything apart from Chicken Poxs vaccination. I may have said previously that meningitis is not given but when I enquired I was told that they do vaccinate against meningitis.
You will also be given advice and vitamins for your baby as required. Overall our doctors surgery has been great and we haven’t had to worry about anything on the healthcare side. We even get a phone call when we are due to be there, which is great or we would forget.
There are days when I wish I had some help, but these are the days when I feel tired or not feeling 100%, but the rest of the time I wouldn’t change a thing. A quick cuddle from my son makes everything worthwhile and life seem alright again.
Would I say go home to have your first child, I’m not sure. Having my son in Turkey wasn’t the hardest part and I felt secure in the knowledge that if things went wrong the care provided would be the same as if in the UK, if not a little better at the hospital we had chosen.
Looking after baby on my own with just my husband, it was hard but I am an independent type of person and people interfering with things would have made it worse. So for me getting on with things on my own worked out best for me. But I think for most people it’s important to have a close member of your family there with you at the birth and for the first two weeks at least. Someone like your Mother or Sister. Mother in Laws are great but unless you are particularly close I would always recommend someone from your own side of the family!
You have to do what is right for you and makes you feel most relaxed, giving birth is not an easy time and getting settled into motherhood can take some adjustment. The happier you are and the more relaxed you are, the happier baby will be.
For any new Mums the best bit of advice I have been given is no matter how you are feeling or what is going on in life. Remember to always smile and laugh around baby, you will have a happy child if you always remember this. So far it’s worked we have a happy carefree child.
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