Being a Mum in Turkey | Parenting in Turkey

Ever wondered what it’s like being a Mum in Turkey, here is my experience so far…..

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Over a year ago I gave birth to our son here in Turkey. At the time I wrote about being pregnant in Turkey and I thought it was about time to write what its been like being a first time Mum living in Turkey for me.

During the time of the birth everything went pretty well but at the time I would have told you different. It wasn’t easy going through my first birth without close family around me. I was grateful that my husband was there and that my doctor and the staff supported me through the whole birthing. I would certainly recommend going private and taking your time to choose your hospital, it made all the difference having people you could trust.

Afterwards it was home with baby and learning the ropes of being a first time Mum. I am glad to say that I find motherhood fairly easy and we haven’t had many major issues to deal with. I am also very grateful that this is the case for me. If there had been larger problems or I wasn’t settling into being a Mum I think life would be very difficult.

For me and a few others I know we live very isolated lives. Yes we have made friends with people in the community but our families are many miles away from us and so we lack the support network that many first time Mums have.

It wasn’t until our trip back to Scotland this summer that I realised how tired I was and how much pressure I had been under. I really had been like a single Mum with no one to support me.

My Husband is great and does what he can, but as always with children it comes down to the Mum to do the lions share of the work and care. When you don’t have family and friends around to give you a break from Baby from time to time that job becomes a 24 hours 365 days a year job.

I can hear some Mums now saying well that’s motherhood, but just think about it for a moment…… Most Mothers have a family member or friend they can leave baby with for a few hours, or come round and help with the housework or watch baby while you catch up on some sleep or have some “you time”.

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5 Responses to “Being a Mum in Turkey | Parenting in Turkey”

  1. 9th July 2013

    maecyyucel Reply

    I’ve been here since 2004 and there have been gaps of actual years between having time off from my boys. In the early years enforcing bed-time was a religion in our house. The person who sets up a dedicated trustworthy baby sitting service will be a millionaire.

  2. 14th August 2013

    Leisa Reply

    Kerry, which hospital did you go to during your pregnancy? And did you manage to find an English-speaking doctor? Leisa 🙂

    • 4th September 2013

      Kerry Arslan Reply

      Hi Leisa we went to a local hospital call Adatip here in Sakarya and yes our doctor spoke English, she was actually flying to the UK day after my birth! Do your research go and visit a few hospitals and ask people in your area which one they used and recommended. Most doctors have some degree of English as a lot of the study and papers are written in English but of course some are a lot better than others at speaking. Good luck x

  3. 3rd February 2016

    Jordan Reply

    Hi kerry is your husband allowed in the delivery room when you give birth? As. I have read some stories on the internet to say they dont allow men in and it concerns me

    • 4th February 2016

      Kerry Arslan Reply

      Hi Jordan, most government hospitals won’t allow your husband in. They one I went to didn’t even allow my Husband in for the scans. We decided to go private and that was 4 years ago and only cost us 1000 lira for the birth and I think 20 or 30 lira for each check up which was monthly. I made sure when I went private that hubby was allowed during the whole process. Which he was and got to cut the cord. You can shop around in Turkey and get the best hospital that matches your needs. I was also very specific that I had a natural birth unless a c section was needed in an emergency. They are very keen on c sections in Turkey. Good luck x

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